There is one thing and one thing only that everyone should pay attention to. There is one thing an done thing only that is the major contributor to our life – how successful it is, how satisfied with it we are, and what is possible for us in our few years here on Earth. It is something we ignore, yet use all of the time. It is something that we disregard, yet it rules us with an iron hand. It is invisible and taken for granted and seemingly impossible to control, yet it is totally our own creation.
That ‘thing’ is self-talk! Self-talk is subtle. You don’t tell yourself you are unworthy, you just say, “yes”, or “see I told you,” or “here it comes again” when your deepest beliefs about yourself are confirmed. When those beliefs are challenged, your internal dialogue goes, “that’s what you think,” or “I don’t think so,” or “you have no idea.” These are fleeting dialogues, they happen in the flick of an eye, yet each one becomes a brick in the wall of that belief or perception or feeling, making it harder to eliminate and more substantial in your own mind.
Beliefs are comfortable and familiar like long-standing friends. We don’t question their presence, as they’ve been with us for a very long time, perhaps life times. They act as a filter for our experience and like the glass-half empty and the glass half-full analogy they proscribe what we see. But they do not see clearly, they filter and spin our experience so we feel we are having a consistent and predictable life experience. In fact, we are, but it is one of our own creation and has nothing to do with “reality.”
Our self-talk is remembered and is stored in the body as memory. Each flick of agreement is like another drop of cement into our pond of belief. If the belief is one that denies life, then it may find a home in an organ and begin to undermine its health. If it is one that tells us who we are then it will undermine our self-esteem. If it is one about how the world works it may undermine our will to live or simply erode our will. When thought is combined with emotion, anger, anxiety, disgust, etc. then the likelihood of sickness is compounded, at some point in time. These are drops, after all and drops take time to accumulate, to become a force to be reckoned with.
Self-talk sets up the resonance inside, that finds its partner outside. So what we resonate with is what can and does come into fruition in our lives. The universe cannot bring you what you are not resonating with, but like attracts like and like a magnet those experiences that match your internal resonance will show up.
Meditation will help you begin to see and hear your self-talk. By slowing your mind down and learning to see/hear/ what is going on you can begin to gain mastery over what is actually being said. Not only that, but you can begin to stop adding bricks to those beliefs. As you stop adding to them the walls and ponds become more and more unsubstantial. They wither away by not being fed.
Tapping is the other method that is very effective at actually finding those walls and ponds and releasing all of that stored energy. That is why tapping uses negative phrasing. It is that very same energetic vibration that finds the similar vibration where it is stored and when it connects, allows for release.
I’m available to speak to your group or event on the “Mind/Body Connection” or on the “Nine Strategies for Healing” developed by Dr. Kelly Turner in her research on cancer survivors, which included me.
As a spiritually-based health coach I walk with others as they enter their own healing journey.
I can be reached at: firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone at (303) 818-4147